tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post8599846441140235069..comments2023-10-31T06:20:45.622-05:00Comments on Raving Black Lunatic: ReunionBig Manhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-13878238371504350922008-05-30T09:33:00.000-05:002008-05-30T09:33:00.000-05:00ZackNah, I've always been hetereo. I said that I t...Zack<BR/><BR/>Nah, I've always been hetereo. I said that I thought I'd changed more than anybody, even the people who had become openly gay since high school. In my mind, going from hetereosexual to homosexual is a huge change, but I felt like the growth I saw in myself as a man was even bigger than that. I'm not trying to brag about my growth, I actually shudder when I think about some of the stuff I focused on and did in high school.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-26836329888588821842008-05-29T19:45:00.000-05:002008-05-29T19:45:00.000-05:00This year marks 10 years since I finished grammar ...This year marks 10 years since I finished grammar school. So, you got me beat by 4 years.<BR/><BR/>But anyway...<BR/><BR/>The quote is somewhat true. But I'm confused by your sexual preference statement. Did you use to be gay in high school? Not that it matters, but it seemed like that's what you implied.<BR/><BR/>GREAT POST.<BR/><BR/>And I apologize for upsetting everybody with the HBCU post some odd weeks ago. I didn't mean any harm.ZACKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868391244595404406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-69716029733662791652008-05-27T22:22:00.000-05:002008-05-27T22:22:00.000-05:00Big Man,I attended my 10 year reunion, and was tot...Big Man,<BR/><BR/><BR/>I attended my 10 year reunion, and was totally dissapointed: Everyone who I was close to in H.S., I was still in touch with; and the handful of people who I was curious about didn't show. <BR/><BR/>(And, it was poorly run: Among other things, they sent us outside for a group photo just a few minutes after serving the main course; when we went back inside, all the plates had been cleared!!!)<BR/><BR/>So, I just skipped my 20-year.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Re: Traits -- I totally agree. We adopted my youngest sister from Korea when she was five, and in preparation with that we got evaluated by some social worker, who wrote up a brief description of all our personalities. My dad was cleaning out their filing cabinet and gave me that document a few years back -- and we're TOTALLY the same!!! (Well, with "grown-up" overlays.)<BR/><BR/>(And your wife's insight, about the group context, makes sense, too: part of why family get-togethers can be such trouble! Old roles, old patterns...)<BR/><BR/><BR/>OTOH: I think that people **can** change -- but within the parameters of their personality or traits. Like, in high school I was fairly shy, but pretty clown-y with my friends. My Junior year, I decided I was tired of being shy, and made a focused effort to talk to more people.<BR/><BR/>Or: Someone who's a thrill-seeker and does a lot of tagging or shoplifting (or whatever) can re-focus those tendencies towards trick skateboarding (or being a stuntman/woman), etc.<BR/><BR/>I think the trick is to take your basic tendencies and either (1) tone them down/ramp them up, or (2) re-channel them into more productive directions.<BR/><BR/><BR/>IMO, anyhow.<BR/><BR/><BR/>--GGGye Greenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972251323124084977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-27354452996267854062008-05-27T17:01:00.000-05:002008-05-27T17:01:00.000-05:00Welcome classmates.Please make the blog a regular ...Welcome classmates.<BR/><BR/>Please make the blog a regular visting place and read some of the old posts. You can use the search function at the top.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-25019745677490874552008-05-27T15:09:00.000-05:002008-05-27T15:09:00.000-05:00Interesting...and so very true!Interesting...and so very true!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-5344143948968145132008-05-27T10:54:00.000-05:002008-05-27T10:54:00.000-05:00Wow. I'm really sorry that I didn't attend. Honest...Wow. I'm really sorry that I didn't attend. Honestly, I wasn't all that interested in going. But after reading this and speaking to Mrs. Raving Black Lunatic, I'm feeling a little sad. Oh well.<BR/><BR/>P.S. Big Man, you're still the same, son: productive and conscious!! Smile!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-19830836624754001112008-05-27T10:37:00.000-05:002008-05-27T10:37:00.000-05:00MANNNN! I swear you took the words right out of my...MANNNN! I swear you took the words right out of my mouth. I had the same conversation using the same terms yesterday. My friend you hit the nail on the head. I especially liked the cake part. Speak on! I will be back tomorrow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-46488602972221768582008-05-27T10:36:00.000-05:002008-05-27T10:36:00.000-05:00I never went to my 10th or 15th or 20th...and I'll...I never went to my 10th or 15th or 20th...and I'll probably miss the 25th as well.<BR/><BR/>But I did go to a 5th year reunion (not sure how many schools do that) and what amazed me was that I was finishing a one-year master's program to bolster my undergraduate degree, and after five years, I was amazed at how many people still hadn't even figured out their undergraduate majors yet.<BR/><BR/>Funny because I went to a Catholic prep school. I guess many of the mamas and papas had plenty of money to let junior stay in school for 5 or 6 or 7 years but not enough time to have given them focus or direction in life.<BR/><BR/>But I digress.<BR/><BR/>What was more interesting to me than the fact that personalities hadn't changed much (didn't expect them to in five years) was the way I was received. People who had actually ridiculed and taunted me in high school actually remembered me fondly and treated me nicely. It was plain freaky, I tell you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-36740685187195321812008-05-27T09:42:00.000-05:002008-05-27T09:42:00.000-05:00Yeah, it was fun. And you're probably right, they ...Yeah, it was fun. And you're probably right, they probably all thought I was exactly the same as I had always been.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-76014680082413133082008-05-27T08:23:00.000-05:002008-05-27T08:23:00.000-05:00That sounded exactly like my 10th. My friend Raye ...That sounded exactly like my 10th. My friend Raye said, "All that changes is the hairstyle". It's strange because I felt like I had changed so much and they hadn't at all. We all felt that way - it's a perception game. I'm glad you had fun!Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900726730265994177noreply@blogger.com