tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post2294622468086237828..comments2023-10-31T06:20:45.622-05:00Comments on Raving Black Lunatic: Men Are From Mars And Women Are From God Knows WhereBig Manhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-69879706776588574702008-07-21T15:20:00.000-05:002008-07-21T15:20:00.000-05:00u silly folk, but i know wherepartsunknow - the pl...u silly folk, but i know where<BR/>partsunknow - the planet where masked wrestlers come fromAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-33033502192280649262008-07-21T09:51:00.000-05:002008-07-21T09:51:00.000-05:00Don't worry about the typos, thanks for the input....Don't worry about the typos, thanks for the input.<BR/><BR/>One thing marriage teaches you is to think like the other sex. Well, it teaches you that if you want to stay married. Slowly, I'm learning to anticipate how my wife will view situations and what her reaction will be.<BR/><BR/>The real challenge is then reacting in the correct manner. See, I'm incredibly stubborn, and I have a tendency to want to win the battle instead of concentrating on the war. Plus, I was raised a certain way and my wife was raised a different way so we just see the world very differently. It's an everyday adventure.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, thank y'all for checking out the post.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-80631200250781661382008-07-20T19:34:00.000-05:002008-07-20T19:34:00.000-05:00'Scuse the typos. I should've edited. :)'Scuse the typos. I should've edited. :)Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-59240276327118709932008-07-20T19:30:00.000-05:002008-07-20T19:30:00.000-05:00I didn't learn "how to think like a man" really we...I didn't learn "how to think like a man" really well until I was in my early 30s and began reading about evolutionary psychology. I already had a heads up on the inner minds of men because my parents divorced when I was young, and he was a helluva show off with the ladies - in front of me. That man would call three women in a row and tell all of them he loved them, laughing his ass off quietly while I watched. <BR/><BR/>The differences between the sexes in view relationships was amazing to me when I was grown. In pursuit of solving the mystery, I read up on it, and learned that not only did our bodies evolve over history to ensure the perpetuation of the species, but so did our minds in uniquely masculine and feminine ways. These are largely unconscious and crosses every single culture.<BR/><BR/>I practiced at learning to view situations through the eyes of men. This came in real handy as a family therapist.<BR/><BR/>When I first heard the story you mentioned, I too wondered why Brinkley had been married four times. That's an awful lot for woman so young. Some women have an attraction to men who are alcoholics, for example, and out of a room of 100 men, will pick a sober one, only to learn later he this problem. I wondered if Brinkley is attracted to men with severe porn issues and an <I>chronic</I> inability to be monogamous.<BR/><BR/>Then I wondered about his addiction to porn. Most men love porn, but his habits are so severe he needs to go to a self-help group like Gamblers Anonymous rather than blowing all that money and time.<BR/><BR/>I didn't think his relationship with an 18 year old was a big deal. At least half of all married men cheat. Most wives get over it. <BR/><BR/>I see no victims in this case, unless there's a kid who be carted back and forth between parents. This child will be in good company since half of classmates are in the same boat.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-84643162331526168962008-07-19T21:35:00.000-05:002008-07-19T21:35:00.000-05:00I'm married (newly wed) and I'm very direct....ver...I'm married (newly wed) and I'm very direct....very....and emotional at times. I don't like to win all arguments, but I do put my point across as logically as possible. Sometimes I'm right; sometimes he's right. If we don't agree, we agree to disagree. If we can't do that, we go to the Bible and ... it's solved. I think it works because our personalities are pretty similar on a large scale.<BR/><BR/>I have male friends who I'd never get into any long drawn out conversations about relationships, though. One particular friend seems to hate women and I find myself defending women to him ... whom I might normally call right off as bitches/hoes/idiots, etc. If I put forth too much of a logical argument he changes the subject and I roll right with it. I think it helps to handle different people differently -- and know when to shut up and keep it moving.D C Cainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598048435166864256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-39225427102392623802008-07-19T15:28:00.000-05:002008-07-19T15:28:00.000-05:00I could get into a lot of trouble for this, so hop...I could get into a lot of trouble for this, so hopefully my wife will understand when she sees this and comprehend where I'm coming from instead of thinking I'm slamming her...but OG and Big Man, you don't know the real challenge.<BR/><BR/>My wife has some very male-like ways of dealing with the world in terms of emotions and practicality. At the same time, she is very much driven by emotions and traditional female views (such as the idea that us men should already know what you're thinking or what you mean just because we spent all day around you).<BR/><BR/>Now, one might think that the challenge of this weird mix is that my wife is insane. Far from it.<BR/><BR/>One might also think that this would make communication easier in general. It doesn't. In fact, I daresay that it means in an argument or a touchy emotional discussion area, I'm actually at a much bigger disadvanatge than most men.<BR/><BR/>On the bright side, when we discuss gender issues in general and they don't have any direct implications in our lives, we do fantastic.<BR/><BR/>So overall, it works out nicely I suppose. But I'm not so sure it's to our advantage as men when a woman near us straddles those gender lines.<BR/>;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-45211587032181736272008-07-19T13:53:00.000-05:002008-07-19T13:53:00.000-05:00It's ok if you haven't come over to my way of thin...It's ok if you haven't come over to my way of thinking yet OG, nobody is perfect.<BR/><BR/>You'll see the light.<BR/><BR/><BR/>lol.<BR/><BR/>Nah, you make a good argument about men not liking direct women, I think that's true in certain ways. A woman who is very direct and up front often makes a man feel less masculine because of the way we've been conditioned. But, I think those women are very, very rare. Most men would like women to be more direct than they normally are.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-55298222517730743092008-07-19T06:51:00.000-05:002008-07-19T06:51:00.000-05:00LOL!! Very funny, just for the record most men do ...LOL!! Very funny, just for the record most men do not know what to do with a woman who is logical. Throws their game OFF. A while back I had a friend text me some flowery BS that most women would love. The message said sans bull I wish we talked more. My reply was then make it happen. If you want to talk more then you should put forth the effort to talk more. His response oh..ok...I understand. Then the next text after wanting to talk more came more than over a month later I really miss hearing your voice, my paraphrase sans the flowery bs. My reply then make it happen. My responses were not angry but logical, when I miss someone or wish we could talk more I call that person or contact them, I don't open up with a bunch of wind beneath my wings missing you poetic bs. <BR/><BR/>So I said all that to say, I think your argument has some holes. <BR/><BR/>On the surface seems simple, but the problem is many men are conditioned to say a bunch of meaning less fluff to make women swell with emotion and not see the actual statement. He text me yesterday again after a few weeks maybe a month who knows and the conversation pretty much ended with me telling him we were not going to be anything but friends that we were not compatible in my eyes so dangling a new house, trips to come see him, and various other things that most women like wasn't going to change that. More banter and then he was like ok Miss Direct I get you. *lol* See men don't want logical women.<BR/><BR/>Now as far as marriage is concerned, you know I've been married and divorce. My divorce was due to irreconcilable differences, but in actuality I found evidence of my husband's hand in the cookie jar. Yep he had months of archived IMs of him and his play thing. Now our marriage had been in trouble so I wasn't surprised and I was even willing to try, but the issues was he thought I would be like his mom and take him breaking his vows as mans play and stay. One our marriage was not that strong to get through that. Two, he never wanted to accepted personal responsibility and during the reconciliation period basically showed me who he really was. As Maya Angelou says if someone shows you who they are believe them. And I did and I left. <BR/><BR/>So I understand to a degree what the women were saying but I also understand what the men were saying. I also understand men are completely thrown off by a woman who doesn't behave as expected you know emotional etc. Men are use to women being passive aggressive and not calling them on the carpet in a logical manner. I say this from personal experience. <BR/><BR/>I guess you better go back to your drawing board. *lol* <BR/><BR/>Good post!<BR/><BR/>-OGOG, The Original Glamazonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041450250560458185noreply@blogger.com