tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post1295055903839336663..comments2023-10-31T06:20:45.622-05:00Comments on Raving Black Lunatic: Thinking About OrdinaryBig Manhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-20037438752884922162010-10-19T10:42:52.873-05:002010-10-19T10:42:52.873-05:00With nearly 13 years under my belt now, I can say ...With nearly 13 years under my belt now, I can say that for as many things as time makes easier, it also brings in fresh complications. Not always bad ones, but still, you'll be trying to manage balance for a long time.<br /><br />Fortunately, my wife and I both share some similarity in background (both of us college-educated "middle class" children of "blue collar" parents) but on the other hand we have the cultural differences of black vs. white experiences, and no matter how "aware" I am of things, there are certain things I just won't ever understand fully (and vice versa).<br /><br />All the best, Big Man. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but much like a job you enjoy going to, it's still a lot of work.Deacon Bluehttp://holyhell.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-44201084240347058912010-10-18T20:11:39.539-05:002010-10-18T20:11:39.539-05:00Well, maybe when we get as deep into this thing as...Well, maybe when we get as deep into this thing as y'all, we'll get more in sync.<br /><br />Just two very different backgrounds and worldviews man. I didn't realize how different until I said "I do."Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6803135128442396638.post-9701624530384505912010-10-17T10:10:13.280-05:002010-10-17T10:10:13.280-05:00I run into this all the time in my own marriage, t...I run into this all the time in my own marriage, too, where my wife cannot see what is so clearly and irrefutably obvious to me. And at times, no amount of logic will sway her. In many cases, after the fact, when tempers have cooled, she sees at least part of my point and understands my reasoning. It doesn't always means that she signs on to my view, but sometimes she does.<br /><br />I, of course, totally understand her and have never failed to accept a reasonable point of view from her that differed from me own...because...oh...all right, that part's a total lie. I'm guilty of it too.<br /><br />Just easier to see when I'm on the wrong end of unreasonable attitudes and always harder to realize when I'm the unreasonable one.<br /><br />I'm just glad our oars are usually going in the right direction to push us forward. I sometimes wonder how much more effective we'd have been in the world if we were always in sync in our marriage.Deacon Bluehttp://holyhell.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com